About Me
Bridget (Prof. Playtime,) She/They
Hi, I’m Bridget (aka Professor Playtime). I’m a former Tech Business Consultant turned safe(r) sex trailblazer, inclusivity advocate, and transformative facilitator. As a Transformation Coach & Educator I help fellow LGBTQIA+ and non-monogamous people realign mind, body, & soul so that they can step into a state of radical authenticity and move with integrity.
I believe erotic integrity can be profoundly transformative. The lessons learned in sexually liberated communities transcend the Play Parties and can fundamentally shift our culture towards a safer & more joyful human experience. I’ve coached, and/or designed play parties, workshops, and transformation circles for 1,000’s of people across the globe, and advise community leaders on how to establish, communicate, and enforce inclusive and risk aware consent, care, and accountability standards.
More about me…
Ok, the ‘blurb’ above give you a tiny insight into who I am and what I do but it in no way encompasses the full story.
From a very young age I was drawn to seek truths and to challenge information. My parent’s retell a story about a time when I was about 3… we were on our way down to visit my Nana on Long Island when I spouted from the back seat “how long does it take us to get to Nana’s?” which they replied “about 2 hrs.” Now, for many 3 year olds, that would likely be where the inquisition stopped, but not me, for I wasn’t interested in the length of time we’d be in the car, but rather I was trying to asses how on earth Santa Clause could possibly get around the entire world in one night, if it takes us 2hrs just to drive down to Nana’s. I wasn’t buying it and I wanted the truth, even if I might not like the answer.
I also had a gift for seeing thing’s that others could not. This sometimes came in the form of spirits (some not so friendly) and other times it came in the form of intense gut feelings; a sense that there was more to something then what was being presented. This combination of being a natural challenger with seemingly super natural insights made for a really rough time as kid. I was seen as difficult, unruly, and problematic. This coupled with overwhelming, at time’s all consuming, empathy and the struggles of ADHD created, a recipe for a lot of trauma and mental health issues.
I have made such incredible mistakes and caused harm to others and myself in the process. In the past I’ve been a terrible partner and employee, I’ve been broke and houseless, abusive and abused, ignorant and oppressive, racist and bigoted, ableist and probably so much more.
So why do I tell this here in my “about me” page? Because I think it’s important to understand the human behind any Coach, and because, for a very long time, these aspects of myself were what I learned to hate the most. I believe this hatred for myself is what lead me down this path of understanding human psychology and the metaphysical.
I have always been fascinated with human interaction and trying to figure out what makes us tick. I spent years gaining a degree traditional Behavioral Psychology, advanced certifications in trauma integration, and many more in traditional therapy, but it wasn’t until I hit rock bottom that I was forced to seek other avenues to understand who I was and who I wanted to be in this world. It wasn’t until I learned restorative accountability, sought out somatic healing, and delved into spiritual practices (including plant medicines) that things started to shift. It took me completely uprooting my entire life and moving to another country with nothing, for me to begin to find myself. I told myself I would use that time and whatever money I could make to try everything at least once. I mean, everything, I did ice baths, meditation retreats, yoga, journaling. I apprenticed under DMT, psilocybin, LSD, and Ayahuasca shamans (I already had an existing relationship with psychedelics for some time.) You name it, I was going to try it. I became a forever student in my own search for radical authenticity. What I didn’t realize when I started out on this journey, was that in this alchemy I would become a better advocate for social change, a more involved ally, and an active participant in making the world a better place for all people. You see, this work often starts out personal, but it is so much more larger then we may realize.
Collectively I have spent over a 15 years learning, healing and reintegrating in both western sciences and eastern/indigenous practices. I’ve spend 5 years coaching, building conscious communities and facilitating healing spaces around the world. I bring this all up here, because I think it’s far more effective then simply listing my degrees and certifications. I don’t try to sell myself as a perfect person, instead I want you to know where I have been with the hopes it gives you permission to show up as your “less than perfect self” with me. It’s not enough for me to tell you I offer judgement free support, I want you to know that I am in no position to judge. I’ve lived the experiences and been versions of myself that many try and hide away. My work is in bringing those parts to the surface so they can be loved, transmuted, and integrated. So no, I am no where near perfect, I do not have all the answers. I am a continuous work in progress. But what I can offer is a safe space, my years of experience, and the empowerment to accept your shadow.
I’m here to tell you the parts that you’ve been taught to hate about yourself, are where your true power lives.
A few who’ve been essential to this journey:
Liz, She/Her
Director of Strategic Partnerships
Liz is an activist and a passionate advocate for Sex Worker rights. They have been organizing in sex-positive circles for the past ten years, with half a dozen organizations and continue to push for inclusive, sex positive spaces as a leader and Co-founder of forLove. They are also the Founder of Girlgy, a social club for femmes and thems. And have taught workshops in sex positivity, consent, and kink fundamentals, as well as advanced Shibari, impact play, and sensory deprivation, with Intimate Horizons and the Citadel.
Kyle, He/Him
Technical Experience Engineer
In loving memory.
Kyle was a Systems Analyst and Engineer working at the intersection of technology, wellness, and sexuality. He brought over a decade of experience supporting sex-positive communities, particularly in the world of trauma-informed BDSM. He also had 5 years’ experience as an I-Group facilitator with the Mankind Project, studied with Human Awareness Institute, and was a certified Erotic Blueprint Coach. He was a certified Shiatsu acupressurist for over 15 years. His passion for creating effortless user experiences and crafting intentional relationships between humans and technology was foundational in the birth of forLove.
Mischa Byruck, He/Him
Finance Lead
Mischa is a men’s integrity and accountability coach at Evolve.Men, where he coaches, teaches and writes on the intersection of gender and power in society. Previously he ran partnerships for DataKind and Code for America and worked in international development in Brazil, India, Ghana and Nepal. In 2005 he founded Emergency Communities, a $10 million disaster relief organization. He has a BA from Columbia and an MPA from NYU.
Ali Bravo, She/Her
Member Engagement Lead
Ali (aka Professor Pervert) started as an enthusiastic participant at For Love parties and has grown into a valued team member. Ali is an artist/leatherworker/seamstress who makes handbags and bondage gear. She also facilitates groups exploring embodiment and radical self-acceptance. She is passionate about honoring the full spectrum of ourselves so that we may honor the same in others and is a fierce advocate for everyone’s worthiness to feel pleasure and at home in their bodies.
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