🍑 Butt Stuff…
👉🏽👌🏾7 Tips for More Enjoyable Anal
We work with and surround ourselves with some pretty k!nky people.
Still, anal play can be a hurdle for some. We believe much of this comes from the shame and stigma around it.
🤓 Prof. Playtime Storytime!
“I started exploring anal sex with my first boyfriend, so conceivably much younger than many might expect. I can remember the day, sitting around the lunch table with friends discussing how (we'll call her Jane) and her boyfriend had tried anal and how gross she was. "I would literally NEVER" was the consensus.
I learned at that moment, this isn't something to share with people, this is shameful and dirty.
For years after this I continued to have uncomfortable and sometimes even painful anal encounters.
It wasn't until I started embracing my full seggsual self expression and surrounded myself with others who celebrated me doing so that I began to experience the pleasureful exploration of our back end.”
🤓 Prof. Pervert Storytime!
“I used to grit my teeth through anal for a long time… it would be somewhat enjoyable but mostly painful… But I thought that’s what I needed to do to be ‘good in bed’”
Then I learned about the 2 sphincters (more info below). And I learned tools to relax and let go… And I had some epic partners who showed me how to be SLOW and intentional and work with my body…
And then I learned how mind blowingly pleasurable anal can be”
📝 Quick Fun Fact:
There are 2 sphincters. The first sphincter is one you control by clenching and opening. You can't, however, control the second sphincter, it is controlled by the body in response to the sensation of a full rectum.
Which tells us that an aspect of uncomfortable anal may actually be in our minds and the story we carry around the sensation.
So what are some ways to explore this with a partner that may help make it a more enjoyable experience?
✅ Tips that helped us find pleasure in anal penetration:
1. Trusting and Open Partners | this should be something you are able to discuss openly and comfortably with your sexual partner, someone you trust
2. Cleaning | using a home enema can remove some of the shame-based thinking/worry and allow you to just drop into the moment and relax
3. 4 Play Matters!! | Just like any other erotic body part, it can take some warming up
4. LUBE | the anus lacks the cells that create the natural lubricant the vagina produce
5. Slow entry | don't just shove something in there, slow and steady wins the race (pace can shift once you’ve adjusted)
6. Lay on your back as the one receiving penetration | Many find this position to be more comfortable and intimate
7. Remember it’s natural to fantasize & explore
