👋🏽 4 Quick Tips for Impact Scene Escalation

#1) Ask the bottom how they’d like to feel during the impact scene? 

PRO TIP: Offer a scale, 1-10, so you can be clear you’re both operating with the same understanding. 

#2) Check-in or practice play. Do a quick try run, ex. If the bottom indicates they’d like to feel a 6 on the impact scale, offer what you believe to be a 6. +/- until you agree upon a 6.

#3) Ask if they would like the option to negotiate impact escalation during the scene? 

If no! This remains no throughout the scene. Even if the bottom starts to get a little hot and heavy, and wants more, we want to stop the scene before any sort of escalation conversion. 

If YES…

#4) Ongoing check-in’s before and after escalation. 

If you are wanting to escalate within your previously discussed boundaries the R/G/Y system is a great way to not disrupt the flow of the scene.

🚦What does Red, Yellow, Green mean in scene escalation?

💚 Green(G) - good to go baby, you are right where you want to be and may be open to turn things up a notch

💛 Yellow (Y) - you’ve reached an edge, best to slow down, check-in and potentially de-escalate

❤️ Red(R) - here we have a full scene stop, check-in and shift to your previously discussed “after care.” Seek an angel or additional support for coregulation and de-escalation if needed. 

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