forLove First Timer’s Guide

Digital play parties are bold new spaces. If you don’t know what to expect for your first party, don’t worry – neither did we! 

We want you here feeling your best, so we put together some information to better explain how our online events work and what to expect.

What makes us different

There are plenty of places to passively and consensually watch others get sexy online. This is not that place. While it is completely OK to watch and enjoy others doing their thing, forLove events work because they are a two-way street. Your active participation and vulnerability is essential in fostering an environment that is safe, exploratory, and sexy for all. forLove is an experience that we all create together.

That said, we also want to emphasize that you never need to do anything sexual, ever, at any forLove event. There are tons of ways to participate and engage that will fit within your personal boundaries, whatever they may be. We support you being present however feels best for you – the point is simply to be present.

Doing it Right

We’ll start first by saying there’s no one way to do it right. The reasons you’re coming to a forLove event could be very different from someone else, so the things you need to do to have a satisfying experience will vary. We strive to build a culture that allows space for each of us to own, express, and create the experiences that are “right” for us. 

We do ask, however, that you get to know our forLove Code of Conduct, Community Consent Standards, and Security and Anonymity policies.  NOTE** These are REQUIRED reading before joining a forLove virtual event.

Instead of outlining a perfect “how-to” guide, we’d like to share a few perspectives that we believe are core anchors on which to build your own unique and empowering forLove event.

Virtual events are not replacements for in-person events. So, instead of fixating on what can’t be replaced, like physical touch, look for the experiences that exist on this medium that you can’t get anywhere else. 

Consider this: At in-person parties, we often gravitate towards being around those we know or those who are most similar to us. At virtual events, groups are formed around interest in a room's theme or activity, rather than who knows who. The result is frictionless participation in experiences and conversations with people who aren’t part of our social groups, and who we likely never would have spoken to otherwise. We get to access communities and lifestyles that might otherwise be outside of our typical reach. We can share real, unique moments with people from all over the world. Virtual parties are incredible equalizers. We’re just scratching the surface of what this medium is capable of.

Because we can’t all be vocal or the center of attention at once, a successful Experience Room needs both active observers and performers to work well. When you’re not talking, stay engaged. Sexy eye gaze at a cute person in the room. Participate in the text chat. Make vocalizations that align to whatever the main experience is calling for (laughter, moans, verbal appreciations). 

When the opportunity arises, consider what you can add to the room. Ask a meaningful question. Tell a story. Try that strip tease. Embrace the space. Performing is an act of vulnerability and a gift to your fellow event goers. Be bold and see what it brings out in you.

If you’re not here to perform, we invite you to experience the joy and power of bearing respectful, adoring witness to others. This is not passive entertainment. Make it rain compliments, affirmations, and emojis on whoever’s performing.